With most of the interviews I do, I’m fortunate just to get one of the lovers to put their time and thoughts into answering my questions. Sometimes I get both/everyone involved to give an interview. This is the first time that I can recall the other lover in a couple, after initially declining, overcoming her shyness and doing a separate interview after seeing her lover’s interview published.
They are a lovely couple both in appearance and interaction.
My previous interview can be found here. That was with the man in this heterosexual coupling, assuming the name "Billy Lee Black." Below is interview with the woman, “Blaze Fielding.”
Read the interview below and ask yourself if there is one good reason this person should be denied her right to marry and have her marriage treated equally under the law or should have to hide the full, true nature of her relationship from anyone.
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FULL MARRIAGE EQUALITY: Describe yourself.
Blaze Fielding: I’m a female in my early twenties, 5’7”, green eyes, brown hair, and average build. I’ve had several jobs, mostly cashier/retail assistant work. I’m now doing part-time cleaning, although I did animal care courses at college and am seeking employment in that area. I have three siblings; two on my mum’s side and one on my dad’s side, who is my older half-brother that I am in a relationship with. I have a son from a previous relationship, as does my partner. We live in the UK, where it’s illegal here to have an intimate relationship with a relative or in-laws.
FME: Are you legally married or have you ever been legally married?
BF: I’ve never been married before. It wasn’t something I gave thought to, although since our relationship began it’s something that’s been on my mind a lot and I would love to marry my half-brother one day.
FME: How would you describe your sexual orientation and your relationship orientation?
BF: We are both heterosexual & in a closed relationship.
FME: You currently live with...?
BF: I currently live with my mum, younger sister and brother, and my son.
FME: So you don’t have children with your half-brother.
BF: No, we don’t have any children together, but we have talked about the possibility of having children in the future. We both believe it is a myth that a baby of our own would be any different to another child, however, if we decide that we want to have children, we will do all we can and take the steps necessary to ensure they will be healthy.
FME: What kind of relationship, if any, did you have while you were growing up?
BF: We didn’t know each other growing up. I always lived with my mum and other siblings; none of them knew of my dads side of the family. My half-brother was told he couldn’t contact me and I only knew of him when someone on Facebook told me our dad, who I never knew, passed away. I added this person and was able to see my dad’s profile. That’s when I found out about my family on his side. I contacted my brother and we hit it off straight away, talking for hours online, by texts, and by phone calls. I knew there was a strong bond from the start. I always wanted a big brother and he always wanted a sister; that in itself made it even more special to us. We were over the moon to be able to talk and finally meet each other.
FME: Before your relationship became sexual, had you heard of Genetic Sexual Attraction or relatives being attracted to each other? What did you think about that?
BF: I had heard of GSA before. I could understand how that can develop, especially when family members have been separated for a long time or first met as adults. I felt sorry for the people in that situation, that they couldn’t live freely because of the laws on incest, even though in my eyes, as long as the people involved are both consenting adults and aren’t hurting anyone, there’s nothing wrong with that. I thought they should be able to live how they want to and be happy without the law and other people judging them. I can’t say I’d ever imagined this to happen to me, but we are deeply in love.
FME: When did you first notice an attraction?
BF: The first time I seen his photo, I thought he was very attractive and looked like a lovely, sweet, kind person. I couldn’t wait for us to talk and hopefully meet up. Just looking at his profile made me so proud to have him as a big brother. I had the feeling we would be close from the start.
We were so happy to finally talk and when we met in person, the second we looked at each other it was very emotional and overwhelming. We hugged for what seemed ages, like we never wanted to let go. There was an instant connection. I felt closer to him than I’d ever been with anyone. He held me tightly and I did the same. I’d never felt so loved and cherished up until that moment. We could tell how much we meant to each other. Our eyes lit up, our endless smiles said it all. It was an incredible feeling.
FME: How did sexual affection become a part of your relationship?
BF: We were always very close. We’d spend hours cuddled up to each other and never wanted to be apart, craved each other’s company, even got lonely when one of us left the room, lol. At first I thought it was because we had this close brother-sister bond, but soon realized our true feelings for each other.
He had thrown some hints about his feelings towards me.
One night we were watching a film on TV and I leaned into him for a cuddle. My head was on his chest, my arms wrapped around him and, he stroked my hair and told me I was beautiful. I looked up at him, we smiled at each other. I kissed him on the lips. We were always gave each other pecks continuously, nothing more up until that moment. We kept kissing and I couldn’t hold back, I didn’t want to hold back, I opened my mouth a little and he did the same. Our tongues met and we had the most passionate, loving kiss imaginable. We looked at each other with a slightly shocked yet relieved look on our faces. Knowing we both felt the same, was the best feeling in the world. I felt complete from that moment.
FME: Can you elaborate about your feelings during that event?
BF: It was an incredible feeling, above anything. We felt nothing but love and passion for each other, no pressure/guilt/shame; it felt completely natural and beautiful. After that kiss we spent hours cuddling, more kissing, touching, then went up to his bedroom and experienced the most amazing, breathtaking, passionate love making imaginable. We connected in every single way; it felt like we were one. I had never thought I would ever experience anything like it. It was magical, every precious second, like heaven to me.
FME: Some would say that consent is not truly possible in a situation like this and that one of you must be abusing the other. What do you say to that?
BF: I completely disagree. It’s the most happy, comfortable, special feeling I’ve ever felt. He feels the same way. We have so much love and respect for each other. We cherish every moment we spend together. I’ve never felt so loved and this close to someone in all my life. He means the world to me and I mean the world to him. The way we look into each other’s eyes, how they sparkle for one another shows just how deeply in love we are. When he holds me, I never want to leave his arms. Even when we’re apart it feels like we’re connected invisibly somehow. I know not many people have or will witness love like ours. I’m thankful to experience this.
FME: Do you, or have you had feelings like this for any other close family members whether they are genetic relatives or not?
BF: No, none whatsoever.
FME: How do you describe the lovemaking now? Some people say familial eroticism is inherently kinky, but I have found that for many it doesn't feel kinky. What about for you?
BF: Making love with him is the most amazing feeling in the world, physically, emotionally and spiritually. There’s so much love and passion between us. It’s an intense feeling. I think there will always be that “kinky” side to it, as we see each other as both sister/brother and girlfriend/boyfriend. Like he also says, it is like neither I nor him had ever made love before. It’s like our hearts could touch. We’re that close and inseparable.
FME: Describe your relationship now. Do you see each other as family or lovers, or are those two roles inseparable at this point?
BF: We see each other as siblings, soul mates, and partners. We are fully committed to each other. I couldn’t see myself with anyone else and he says the same too. We want and plan to live together soon, and hopefully, one day, get married. He makes me feel amazing in so many ways. I couldn’t have wished for a better person to have this unique relationship with. Our love really is, as he says too, the treasure that cannot be stolen.
FME: Does anyone in your life know the full, true nature of your relationship and how did they find out? Are you able to act like a couple in public? What kind of steps, if any, have you had to take to keep your privacy?
BF: A few people know about us; only close family and friends. We told them. Most weren’t phased by our relationship, mainly on his side of the family. Some were and are against us being together, which unfortunately are family members on my side. Our Granddad, our dad’s dad, encouraged us to be together as he could see there was something between us. He is happy for us too. We really only act like a couple behind closed doors. We would love to be able to be this way in public. We deactivated our Facebook accounts due to people not minding their own business and spouting their unwanted opinions about our photos together. We could never tell everyone the truth about us. It’s a shame that society and the law are this way. We’re proud of the relationship we have and given the chance would tell the world if we could.
FME: Having to hide the full nature of your relationship from some people can be a disadvantage. Can you describe how that has been? Are there any other disadvantages? Conversely, do you think consanguineous relationships have some advantages and some things better than unrelated lovers?
BF: It has and can be really tough at times, to hide such a special, close relationship and live our lives in secret that way, when we want to be able to live freely like any other couple. The only other disadvantage we thought we might have come across, is that we thought maybe the possibility of us having children together was something unlikely to happen, purely because of what we’re told to believe about having children with a relative, that they wouldn’t turn out as they should and would have defects or health problems. However, I’ve since seen that it is a myth and people in our situation have had perfectly healthy children. I know there are also tests available and other options for us, if we were planning on having a child.
I definitely think our relationship has its advantages over unrelated lovers. Our bond is twice as strong. We have all the elements of a brother and sister love and those also of a loving intimate relationship. I haven’t seen any two people just as close and in love as we are. You could say we have the best of both worlds.
FME: What do you want to say to people who disapprove of your relationship, or disapprove of anyone having this kind of relationship?
BF: Everyone has the right to be with and marry who they want to, as long as both are of age and consent. My half-brother and I are two people who adore each other in every way possible and want to live a normal, happy life like every other couple out there. We aren’t hurting anyone. We shouldn’t have to hide or be looked down upon for being in love.
FME: What is your advice to others who are having feelings for a genetic relative?
BF: If you believe you have feelings for a relative, speak to them. Let them know how you feel. Don’t let anyone tell you it’s wrong to feel that way. If it feels right, then go with your heart.
FME: Aside from the law, which I think is ridiculous, can you think of anything that would make relationships like this inherently wrong?
BF: No, I agree the law is ridiculous, along with a huge part of society and how they view incest in general. Hopefully one day things will change.
FME: If you could get marriage and it would be legally recognized and would be treated equally under the law and protected from discrimination, would you?
BF: We aren’t married, but if that were an option I know we wouldn’t hesitate to get married. We’d love to be husband and wife.
FME: Have you met in-person or do you know anyone else who has experience with GSA or consanguinamory or consanguineous sex?
BF: I do not know anyone else in-person who has a similar experience, but I have spoke online and read forums about people in our situation. Some stuck together no matter what, through whatever it took, they went through everything together and came through happy in the end, some went on to get married and have a child or children, some thought it was wrong to feel that way because of law and society, some lived their love lives in private. Everyone’s story is different, especially in consanguineous relationships.
FME: Any plans for the future?
BF: We intend to stay together no matter what. We are in love and our bond is unbreakable. It might not always be easy and we can’t predict what will happen in the future, but together we are strong. We will fight for our right to live as we should be entitled to, as any other happy couple, no matter what it takes.
I want to marry my half-brother one day soon. Aside from that, we just want to be able to live together and spend time together both indoors and in public, as a couple. We want to spend every day in each other’s company. I’d love nothing more than to have the freedom to live this way together. We’re not happy when we’re apart; it hurts a lot and I always long to be in his arms.
FME: Anything else you want to say?
BF: To anyone else who is going through this, always be true to yourself and the person you love. Your feelings are not wrong. They’re completely natural and if something feels right don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Everyone deserves happiness and freedom in life. Good luck to anyone in a similar situation to us. The law, society, even friends and family may tell you it’s wrong. It isn’t, if your feelings are strong for one another; never give up on your right to be together.
*****
There you have it. Consenting adults who aren't hurting anyone, who have a beautiful love, but are denied their rights.
Why should they be denied their rights? There’s no good reason.We need to recognize that all adults should be free to be with any and all consenting adults as they mutually consent, and part of doing that is adopting relationship rights for all, including full marriage equality sooner rather than later. People are being hurt because of a denial of their basic human rights to love each other freely.
You can read other interviews I have done here.
If you are in a relationship like this and are looking for help or others you can talk with, read this.
Thank you to "Blaze Fielding" for doing this interview! If you want to be interviewed about your "forbidden" relationship, connect with me by checking under the "Get Connected" tab there at the top of the page.
They are a lovely couple both in appearance and interaction.
My previous interview can be found here. That was with the man in this heterosexual coupling, assuming the name "Billy Lee Black." Below is interview with the woman, “Blaze Fielding.”
Read the interview below and ask yourself if there is one good reason this person should be denied her right to marry and have her marriage treated equally under the law or should have to hide the full, true nature of her relationship from anyone.
*****
FULL MARRIAGE EQUALITY: Describe yourself.
Blaze Fielding: I’m a female in my early twenties, 5’7”, green eyes, brown hair, and average build. I’ve had several jobs, mostly cashier/retail assistant work. I’m now doing part-time cleaning, although I did animal care courses at college and am seeking employment in that area. I have three siblings; two on my mum’s side and one on my dad’s side, who is my older half-brother that I am in a relationship with. I have a son from a previous relationship, as does my partner. We live in the UK, where it’s illegal here to have an intimate relationship with a relative or in-laws.
FME: Are you legally married or have you ever been legally married?
BF: I’ve never been married before. It wasn’t something I gave thought to, although since our relationship began it’s something that’s been on my mind a lot and I would love to marry my half-brother one day.
FME: How would you describe your sexual orientation and your relationship orientation?
BF: We are both heterosexual & in a closed relationship.
FME: You currently live with...?
BF: I currently live with my mum, younger sister and brother, and my son.
FME: So you don’t have children with your half-brother.
BF: No, we don’t have any children together, but we have talked about the possibility of having children in the future. We both believe it is a myth that a baby of our own would be any different to another child, however, if we decide that we want to have children, we will do all we can and take the steps necessary to ensure they will be healthy.
FME: What kind of relationship, if any, did you have while you were growing up?
BF: We didn’t know each other growing up. I always lived with my mum and other siblings; none of them knew of my dads side of the family. My half-brother was told he couldn’t contact me and I only knew of him when someone on Facebook told me our dad, who I never knew, passed away. I added this person and was able to see my dad’s profile. That’s when I found out about my family on his side. I contacted my brother and we hit it off straight away, talking for hours online, by texts, and by phone calls. I knew there was a strong bond from the start. I always wanted a big brother and he always wanted a sister; that in itself made it even more special to us. We were over the moon to be able to talk and finally meet each other.
FME: Before your relationship became sexual, had you heard of Genetic Sexual Attraction or relatives being attracted to each other? What did you think about that?
BF: I had heard of GSA before. I could understand how that can develop, especially when family members have been separated for a long time or first met as adults. I felt sorry for the people in that situation, that they couldn’t live freely because of the laws on incest, even though in my eyes, as long as the people involved are both consenting adults and aren’t hurting anyone, there’s nothing wrong with that. I thought they should be able to live how they want to and be happy without the law and other people judging them. I can’t say I’d ever imagined this to happen to me, but we are deeply in love.
FME: When did you first notice an attraction?
BF: The first time I seen his photo, I thought he was very attractive and looked like a lovely, sweet, kind person. I couldn’t wait for us to talk and hopefully meet up. Just looking at his profile made me so proud to have him as a big brother. I had the feeling we would be close from the start.
We were so happy to finally talk and when we met in person, the second we looked at each other it was very emotional and overwhelming. We hugged for what seemed ages, like we never wanted to let go. There was an instant connection. I felt closer to him than I’d ever been with anyone. He held me tightly and I did the same. I’d never felt so loved and cherished up until that moment. We could tell how much we meant to each other. Our eyes lit up, our endless smiles said it all. It was an incredible feeling.
FME: How did sexual affection become a part of your relationship?
BF: We were always very close. We’d spend hours cuddled up to each other and never wanted to be apart, craved each other’s company, even got lonely when one of us left the room, lol. At first I thought it was because we had this close brother-sister bond, but soon realized our true feelings for each other.
He had thrown some hints about his feelings towards me.
One night we were watching a film on TV and I leaned into him for a cuddle. My head was on his chest, my arms wrapped around him and, he stroked my hair and told me I was beautiful. I looked up at him, we smiled at each other. I kissed him on the lips. We were always gave each other pecks continuously, nothing more up until that moment. We kept kissing and I couldn’t hold back, I didn’t want to hold back, I opened my mouth a little and he did the same. Our tongues met and we had the most passionate, loving kiss imaginable. We looked at each other with a slightly shocked yet relieved look on our faces. Knowing we both felt the same, was the best feeling in the world. I felt complete from that moment.
FME: Can you elaborate about your feelings during that event?
BF: It was an incredible feeling, above anything. We felt nothing but love and passion for each other, no pressure/guilt/shame; it felt completely natural and beautiful. After that kiss we spent hours cuddling, more kissing, touching, then went up to his bedroom and experienced the most amazing, breathtaking, passionate love making imaginable. We connected in every single way; it felt like we were one. I had never thought I would ever experience anything like it. It was magical, every precious second, like heaven to me.
FME: Some would say that consent is not truly possible in a situation like this and that one of you must be abusing the other. What do you say to that?
BF: I completely disagree. It’s the most happy, comfortable, special feeling I’ve ever felt. He feels the same way. We have so much love and respect for each other. We cherish every moment we spend together. I’ve never felt so loved and this close to someone in all my life. He means the world to me and I mean the world to him. The way we look into each other’s eyes, how they sparkle for one another shows just how deeply in love we are. When he holds me, I never want to leave his arms. Even when we’re apart it feels like we’re connected invisibly somehow. I know not many people have or will witness love like ours. I’m thankful to experience this.
FME: Do you, or have you had feelings like this for any other close family members whether they are genetic relatives or not?
BF: No, none whatsoever.
FME: How do you describe the lovemaking now? Some people say familial eroticism is inherently kinky, but I have found that for many it doesn't feel kinky. What about for you?
BF: Making love with him is the most amazing feeling in the world, physically, emotionally and spiritually. There’s so much love and passion between us. It’s an intense feeling. I think there will always be that “kinky” side to it, as we see each other as both sister/brother and girlfriend/boyfriend. Like he also says, it is like neither I nor him had ever made love before. It’s like our hearts could touch. We’re that close and inseparable.
FME: Describe your relationship now. Do you see each other as family or lovers, or are those two roles inseparable at this point?
BF: We see each other as siblings, soul mates, and partners. We are fully committed to each other. I couldn’t see myself with anyone else and he says the same too. We want and plan to live together soon, and hopefully, one day, get married. He makes me feel amazing in so many ways. I couldn’t have wished for a better person to have this unique relationship with. Our love really is, as he says too, the treasure that cannot be stolen.
FME: Does anyone in your life know the full, true nature of your relationship and how did they find out? Are you able to act like a couple in public? What kind of steps, if any, have you had to take to keep your privacy?
BF: A few people know about us; only close family and friends. We told them. Most weren’t phased by our relationship, mainly on his side of the family. Some were and are against us being together, which unfortunately are family members on my side. Our Granddad, our dad’s dad, encouraged us to be together as he could see there was something between us. He is happy for us too. We really only act like a couple behind closed doors. We would love to be able to be this way in public. We deactivated our Facebook accounts due to people not minding their own business and spouting their unwanted opinions about our photos together. We could never tell everyone the truth about us. It’s a shame that society and the law are this way. We’re proud of the relationship we have and given the chance would tell the world if we could.
FME: Having to hide the full nature of your relationship from some people can be a disadvantage. Can you describe how that has been? Are there any other disadvantages? Conversely, do you think consanguineous relationships have some advantages and some things better than unrelated lovers?
BF: It has and can be really tough at times, to hide such a special, close relationship and live our lives in secret that way, when we want to be able to live freely like any other couple. The only other disadvantage we thought we might have come across, is that we thought maybe the possibility of us having children together was something unlikely to happen, purely because of what we’re told to believe about having children with a relative, that they wouldn’t turn out as they should and would have defects or health problems. However, I’ve since seen that it is a myth and people in our situation have had perfectly healthy children. I know there are also tests available and other options for us, if we were planning on having a child.
I definitely think our relationship has its advantages over unrelated lovers. Our bond is twice as strong. We have all the elements of a brother and sister love and those also of a loving intimate relationship. I haven’t seen any two people just as close and in love as we are. You could say we have the best of both worlds.
FME: What do you want to say to people who disapprove of your relationship, or disapprove of anyone having this kind of relationship?
BF: Everyone has the right to be with and marry who they want to, as long as both are of age and consent. My half-brother and I are two people who adore each other in every way possible and want to live a normal, happy life like every other couple out there. We aren’t hurting anyone. We shouldn’t have to hide or be looked down upon for being in love.
FME: What is your advice to others who are having feelings for a genetic relative?
BF: If you believe you have feelings for a relative, speak to them. Let them know how you feel. Don’t let anyone tell you it’s wrong to feel that way. If it feels right, then go with your heart.
FME: Aside from the law, which I think is ridiculous, can you think of anything that would make relationships like this inherently wrong?
BF: No, I agree the law is ridiculous, along with a huge part of society and how they view incest in general. Hopefully one day things will change.
FME: If you could get marriage and it would be legally recognized and would be treated equally under the law and protected from discrimination, would you?
BF: We aren’t married, but if that were an option I know we wouldn’t hesitate to get married. We’d love to be husband and wife.
FME: Have you met in-person or do you know anyone else who has experience with GSA or consanguinamory or consanguineous sex?
BF: I do not know anyone else in-person who has a similar experience, but I have spoke online and read forums about people in our situation. Some stuck together no matter what, through whatever it took, they went through everything together and came through happy in the end, some went on to get married and have a child or children, some thought it was wrong to feel that way because of law and society, some lived their love lives in private. Everyone’s story is different, especially in consanguineous relationships.
FME: Any plans for the future?
BF: We intend to stay together no matter what. We are in love and our bond is unbreakable. It might not always be easy and we can’t predict what will happen in the future, but together we are strong. We will fight for our right to live as we should be entitled to, as any other happy couple, no matter what it takes.
I want to marry my half-brother one day soon. Aside from that, we just want to be able to live together and spend time together both indoors and in public, as a couple. We want to spend every day in each other’s company. I’d love nothing more than to have the freedom to live this way together. We’re not happy when we’re apart; it hurts a lot and I always long to be in his arms.
FME: Anything else you want to say?
BF: To anyone else who is going through this, always be true to yourself and the person you love. Your feelings are not wrong. They’re completely natural and if something feels right don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Everyone deserves happiness and freedom in life. Good luck to anyone in a similar situation to us. The law, society, even friends and family may tell you it’s wrong. It isn’t, if your feelings are strong for one another; never give up on your right to be together.
*****
There you have it. Consenting adults who aren't hurting anyone, who have a beautiful love, but are denied their rights.
Why should they be denied their rights? There’s no good reason.We need to recognize that all adults should be free to be with any and all consenting adults as they mutually consent, and part of doing that is adopting relationship rights for all, including full marriage equality sooner rather than later. People are being hurt because of a denial of their basic human rights to love each other freely.
You can read other interviews I have done here.
If you are in a relationship like this and are looking for help or others you can talk with, read this.
Thank you to "Blaze Fielding" for doing this interview! If you want to be interviewed about your "forbidden" relationship, connect with me by checking under the "Get Connected" tab there at the top of the page.
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